What would you do? Keep the gifts or contact police?

I am a college professor. I graduated from Stanford, UC Davis, and went on to receive my Phd from UF at the age of 26. I am married to a wonderful man who received his Phd, and we have no children. I am in a sorority and he is in a fraternity. My life was perfect before the incident below took place.





When I came back to work from the break recently, I had a package waiting for me in the office, from an anonymous sender. Inside it contained gift certificates for (from what I've heard) are very expensive restaurants. Restaurants in San Francisco, such as "Aqua", "Jardiniere", "Benihana's", "Farallon", "Gary Danko", "Masa's" "Fleur De Lys", "Postrio's" I've never even heard of most of these restaurants before, let alone eaten at them, but I have a feeling that someone from my past sent them to me out of guilt, and there is no forwarding address, so I can't send it back.





A part of me wants to keep it, but this person that I am assuming it is, slept with my husband 3 years ago, and then turned around and lied about being pregnant with his child. She told me that she had issues because of being molested as a child, had low self esteem and that she lied about the pregnancy to get me to leave my cheating husband, because she thought I deserved better. I was furious with him and we suffered tons of backlash from their actions, but I didn't leave him. She was a girl that I was trying to mentor, and who was in my class as a communications student. Over a year's worth of time, we developed a cool bond and I don't know why she did what she did, but I forgave my husband and told her to get lost and to seek psychological help. After I found out and told her off, she called non-stop for forgiveness on and off for about a year and a half. She finally stopped for a year or so now, Suddenly I get these expensive restaurant gift certificates (no note, no forwarding address) and I mean for like $200.00-$500.00 a piece. Who else would do this and for what? I told her a while back that the least she could do, was to never contact myself or my husband again, but I guess the guilt wont let her. What would you do? Should I keep letting her send this to me or contact the police? I am a college professor and so is my husband and I don't want any negative attention for neither one of us, because of this incident. I just want to move on with my life and forget that this ever happened.|||If you truly want to move on and forget this ever happend, there's the "circular file" (aka "the garbage can") right next to you.





However, she does have the card numbers and can determine whether you've been using them or not. If she starts contacting you asking why you haven't used the cards, you need to call the police and get them involved. The problem will be that she probably paid cash for the cards and there's no return address on the package. Being in law enforcement, I have to say that the chances of finding out exactly who purchased the cards and sent them to you are bordering on zero. Remember that "what you know" and "what you can prove" are two different things. You may "know" she did it, but you cannot prove it.





For most people though, it would be hard to throw away thousands of dollars of gift cards. If you decide to use them, call the number on them to make sure they are valid (and not stolen).





Another option you have, after making sure they are valid and not stolen, is to give them away to friends. The cards will get used up, your friends will love you (even more), and you won't have to go through any remorse/guilt or whatever for gaining financially from what was a very trying situation to say the least.|||PHD, you must be kidding. All that education, and the best you can do is ask.yahoo?|||You could go to the restaurnts and ask them if they can tell you who bought them. If the person used a credit card you gould get there name.|||you don't even write at a college level.





Any "educated" person can identify simple statement veracity .





You don't have it. If you want to be trusted %26amp; beleived, begin and end with the truth.





How can we believe the rest?|||Find out who bought those gift cards (can find the information by checking the names of the buyers of the cards in the respective locations)


If you do not want to use t hem then send them back to sender.|||What you could do, because it sounds like you don't want to use them, is give them to the less fortunate.


Find a family in your neighborhood, or a relative that isn't doing so well right now, and brigten their lives up a little bit.