When I came back to work from the break recently, I had a package waiting for me in the office, from an anonymous sender. Inside it contained gift certificates for (from what I've heard) are very expensive restaurants. Restaurants in San Francisco, such as "Aqua", "Jardiniere", "Benihana's", "Farallon", "Gary Danko", "Masa's" "Fleur De Lys", "Postrio's" I've never even heard of most of these restaurants before, let alone eaten at them, but I have a feeling that someone from my past sent them to me out of guilt, and there is no forwarding address, so I can't send it back.
A part of me wants to keep it, but this person that I am assuming it is, slept with my husband 3 years ago, and then turned around and lied about being pregnant with his child. She told me that she had issues because of being molested as a child, had low self esteem and that she lied about the pregnancy to get me to leave my cheating husband, because she thought I deserved better. I was furious with him and we suffered a great deal of backlash from their actions, but I didn't leave him. She was a girl I was trying to mentor, and who was in my class as a communications student. After a year of time, we developed somewhat of a friendship/mentor-student relationship so, I really don't know why she did what she did. I forgave my husband and told her to move on with her life, along with a few other choice words and advised that she seek psychological help. After I found out and let her know, she called non-stop for forgiveness on and off for about a year and a half. Emails, text messages, random phone calls. I'd get calls, pick up, and no answer. She finally stopped for a year or so now. Suddenly I get these expensive restaurant gift certificates (no note, no forwarding address) and I mean for like $200.00-$500.00 a piece. Who else would do this and for what? I told her a while back that the least she could do, was to never contact myself or my husband again, but I guess the guilt wont let her. What would you do? Should I keep letting her send this to me or contact the police? I am a college professor and so is my husband and I don't want any negative attention for either one of us because of this incident. I just want to move on with my life and forget that this ever happened. Also is there a way that the restaurants can tell me whose card was used to pay for the gift certificates. Thanks.|||well i wouldn't contact the police.
i would contact her.
talk to her and ask if she is the one sending this stuff. help her get over this because its obviously something she regrets ALOT. if she isnt the one sending the stuff contact the police.
help her get through this. be nice to her even though she did a horrible thing.
need some help? email me.|||Please don't abuse the site by multi posting the same question.|||Keep it girl.
Don't look a gift horse in the mouth.
You deserve some fun and some nice evenings or sell them on e-bay and buy yourself something nice.
She is right to feel guilty, which she is going to do regardless if you use those cards or not.|||You've posted this exact same question 12 times so it must really be bothering you.
I would give these gift cards away as gifts if you don't feel right keeping them. If you feel threatened in any way by her continued attention and contacts contact the postal authorities or police and complain, or put out a restraining order on her.
If there is no return address you really can't prove it is her. It does seem to follow the pattern of her previous contacts. If she continues this type of behavior she sounds like a fatal attraction type and someone with serious mental health issues.
If she paid with a credit or debit card you could possibly trace the purchase but if she used cash there is no way to trace the purchase.
If you contact the restaurants and ask if they can tell you who made the purchase, you might get some info on where they were bought. If after attempting to find out about each card you come up empty without the information you need then you have to decide if you want to keep these things or donate them.
Keeping them won't keep her from doing something more. Neither will getting rid of them.
As a college Professor maybe you can have a school contest in your classes and give them away as rewards for the best grades or something like that?
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