What would you do? Keep the gifts or contact police?

I am a college professor. I graduated from Stanford, UC Davis, and went on to receive my Phd from UF at the age of 26. I am married to a wonderful man who received his Phd, and we have no children. I am in a sorority and he is in a fraternity. My life was perfect before the incident below took place.





When I came back to work from the break recently, I had a package waiting for me in the office, from an anonymous sender. Inside it contained gift certificates for (from what I've heard) are very expensive restaurants. Restaurants in San Francisco, such as "Aqua", "Jardiniere", "Benihana's", "Farallon", "Gary Danko", "Masa's" "Fleur De Lys", "Postrio's" I've never even heard of most of these restaurants before, let alone eaten at them, but I have a feeling that someone from my past sent them to me out of guilt, and there is no forwarding address, so I can't send it back.





A part of me wants to keep it, but this person that I am assuming it is, slept with my husband 3 years ago, and then turned around and lied about being pregnant with his child. She told me that she had issues because of being molested as a child, had low self esteem and that she lied about the pregnancy to get me to leave my cheating husband, because she thought I deserved better. I was furious with him and we suffered tons of backlash from their actions, but I didn't leave him. She was a girl that I was trying to mentor, and who was in my class as a communications student. Over a year's worth of time, we developed a cool bond and I don't know why she did what she did, but I forgave my husband and told her to get lost and to seek psychological help. After I found out and told her off, she called non-stop for forgiveness on and off for about a year and a half. She finally stopped for a year or so now, Suddenly I get these expensive restaurant gift certificates (no note, no forwarding address) and I mean for like $200.00-$500.00 a piece. Who else would do this and for what? I told her a while back that the least she could do, was to never contact myself or my husband again, but I guess the guilt wont let her. What would you do? Should I keep letting her send this to me or contact the police? I am a college professor and so is my husband and I don't want any negative attention for neither one of us, because of this incident. I just want to move on with my life and forget that this ever happened.|||don't contact the police. if it is really her, she is trying to say she's sorry. if you still have her phone number or address, text/call/write her a letter telling her its unnecessary. if you don't, just let it go. i say use the gifts. i mean what the hell, you have these gift cards worth hundreds that your gonna throw away?? if you don't feel comfortable using them, give them to somebody. or maybe even sell them. hope i helped(:|||Not sure what your academic CV has to do with any of this, but if you're not comfortable, don't keep anything.|||there is a third option . simply dont use them|||You don' t know if they really are from her or not, you just think it might be her. Contact the restaurants and see who purchased them, but they may not have a way of knowing who bought them or it may be their policy not to tell you. If you feel uncomfortable accepting them give them away, then instruct whomever has access to your office not to let anyone leave anything inside and not to accept anything without getting any contact information.|||In all seriousness, I would question the validity of these certificates to begin with. Thousands of dollars worth??? Perhaps someone is trying to make you look foolish by going to these restaurants, racking up a $300 bill, and then producing a fake certificate so you're stuck paying... it HAS happened...





EDIT: They could also be STOLEN, so when you try to use them - boom - you're identified as a criminal|||I would contact the police and at the very least file a written report so that it is on file. You cannot predict what people will do and if there is no record on file, then you will not ever have a case when it is too late.|||Well if u ain't gotta return address or nothin, the only way to trace the stuff would be by whoever bought em from the restaurants or wherever. And then if they paid anonymously, u still might not be able to find out.





If u are uncomfortable with the gifts then either throw em out or give em to someone else who would enjoy em.|||I wouldn't bother with the police, there's nothing they can do about it. I guess what I would probably do, if I were you, is to return it to her. Only do this if you want to cause the maximum offense while still being polite yourself. Do not include any note.





Returning a gift is one of the greatest insults you can deliver, and I say this woman deserves it. It would make your point far far far more effectively than anything you could say and will also not allow her to feel like she has been forgiven.





Generally there is a return address on the package somewhere, but if it was sent via UPS, they'll have tracking codes and stuff and you can just "return to sender" without bothering to mention names.