What would you do? Keep the gifts or contact police?

I am a college professor. I graduated from Stanford, UC Davis, and went on to receive my Phd from UF at the age of 26. I am married to a wonderful man who received his Phd, and we have no children. I am in a sorority and he is in a fraternity. My life was perfect before the incident below took place.





When I came back to work from the break recently, I had a package waiting for me in the office, from an anonymous sender. Inside it contained gift certificates for (from what I've heard) are very expensive restaurants. Restaurants in San Francisco, such as "Aqua", "Jardiniere", "Benihana's", "Farallon", "Gary Danko", "Masa's" "Fleur De Lys", "Postrio's" I've never even heard of most of these restaurants before, let alone eaten at them, but I have a feeling that someone from my past sent them to me out of guilt, and there is no forwarding address, so I can't send it back.





A part of me wants to keep it, but this person that I am assuming it is, slept with my husband 3 years ago, and then turned around and lied about being pregnant with his child. She told me that she had issues because of being molested as a child, had low self esteem and that she lied about the pregnancy to get me to leave my cheating husband, because she thought I deserved better. I was furious with him and we suffered tons of backlash from their actions, but I didn't leave him. She was a girl that I was trying to mentor, and who was in my class as a communications student. Over a year's worth of time, we developed a cool bond and I don't know why she did what she did, but I forgave my husband and told her to get lost and to seek psychological help. After I found out and told her off, she called non-stop for forgiveness on and off for about a year and a half. She finally stopped for a year or so now, Suddenly I get these expensive restaurant gift certificates (no note, no forwarding address) and I mean for like $200.00-$500.00 a piece. Who else would do this and for what? I told her a while back that the least she could do, was to never contact myself or my husband again, but I guess the guilt wont let her. What would you do? Should I keep letting her send this to me or contact the police? I am a college professor and so is my husband and I don't want any negative attention for neither one of us, because of this incident. I just want to move on with my life and forget that this ever happened.|||Whoosh! That's the sound a "perfect life" makes when it departs. A distinct whooshing sound.





I think that you and your "new" mentee should 1) use the gift certificates, 2) and then, get a hotel room, and let that sweet-azz college girl teach an old girl some new trix. You know - student-becomes-teacher. How symbolic for you.





You'll love it and you can go right back to your less-than-perfect life as though nothing ever happened.





Your clueless professor-husband-type person will not even notice, and no DON'T make him go with you to these places as I suspect that he's already suffered more than enough, the poor old thing. Let him doze by the fire while you light one of your own.|||I would just keep accepting what is sent, but then donate them to charity auctions or the like. It's almost a bit like screwing her back, isn't it?|||This is a hard one. I would talk it over with your spouse and see what he thinks. There are different ways to handle this. You could either use them and have a nice dinner "on her", or you could throw them away and not worry about it. Or, call the police and have them find a way to track her down, only if you think they're from her. You don't want to blame the wrong person here. Me, personally, I would see what your husband thinks, and then possibly the police. If the police get involved and are able to contact her and stop this, it might scare her enough to back off.|||First of all, I would have left him. Did she even end up having the baby? This is really out of my league but I can't fathom your story. I would had left him.





Now, unless she's wealthy enough to buy these gift certificates, I don't think it's coming from her. But even if it is, I would keep them. If anything, I'd give it to friends/family who's having a special occasion (birthday or what not).