What would you do? Keep the gifts or contact police?

I am a college professor. I graduated from Stanford, UC Davis, and went on to receive my Phd from UF at the age of 26. I am married to a wonderful man who received his Phd, and we have no children. I am in a sorority and he is in a fraternity. My life was perfect before the incident below took place.





When I came back to work from the break recently, I had a package waiting for me in the office, from an anonymous sender. Inside it contained gift certificates for (from what I've heard) are very expensive restaurants. Restaurants in San Francisco, such as "Aqua", "Jardiniere", "Benihana's", "Farallon", "Gary Danko", "Masa's" "Fleur De Lys", "Postrio's" I've never even heard of most of these restaurants before, let alone eaten at them, but I have a feeling that someone from my past sent them to me out of guilt, and there is no forwarding address, so I can't send it back.





A part of me wants to keep it, but this person that I am assuming it is, slept with my husband 3 years ago, and then turned around and lied about being pregnant with his child. She told me that she had issues because of being molested as a child, had low self esteem and that she lied about the pregnancy to get me to leave my cheating husband, because she thought I deserved better. I was furious with him and we suffered tons of backlash from their actions, but I didn't leave him. She was a girl that I was trying to mentor, and who was in my class as a communications student. Over a year's worth of time, we developed a cool bond and I don't know why she did what she did, but I forgave my husband and told her to get lost and to seek psychological help. After I found out and told her off, she called non-stop for forgiveness on and off for about a year and a half. She finally stopped for a year or so now, Suddenly I get these expensive restaurant gift certificates (no note, no forwarding address) and I mean for like $200.00-$500.00 a piece. Who else would do this and for what? I told her a while back that the least she could do, was to never contact myself or my husband again, but I guess the guilt wont let her. What would you do? Should I keep letting her send this to me or contact the police? I am a college professor and so is my husband and I don't want any negative attention for neither one of us, because of this incident. I just want to move on with my life and forget that this ever happened.|||If I were you I would keep them. I would make sure they are legit and if they are I would just eat at the restaurants and give some away. If more is sent, keep those too. If she is so stupid she wants to give away money eat in style. If anyone asks say it was a gift.|||The police won't do anything unless this person directly contacts and harasses you. Sending anonymous gifts isn't a crime. I would give them away. Perhaps the college or somewhere else is having some sort of giveaway or raffle sometime soon and you can donate them just so they're not in "your space".|||Take advantage of the situation and keep the gifts. The police won't care. What are they going to do? Stop someone from sending you gifts? No, just enjoy it.|||Contact the police, she's got issues that you and your husband didn't subscribe to.|||write a book about it already....who cares|||Sorry make it shorter|||if the police wasnt corrupted then contact them


if it is then ignore|||What the 4th answerer said,





its so true.|||Sell them on ebay|||wow|||I'd keep them and enjoy them, so should you :)|||follow ur heart|||oh my.... thats long.... P%26amp;S is full of lazy asses.... try a different section?|||just keep it...make a date out of it and have a good time. most likely she wont be able to afford this anymore|||she sounds like a stalker in why have you let this go on for a year all you are doing is giving her al the attention in making her think you care about her this is nothing but your own fault for letting it go on so far call the police in put a end of it before you two split up or divorce one another,,,,,,,,,,|||P%26amp;S is not a serious category.... but if I were you I think it's too sketchy - who really knows where they came from or why they're so much, I'd throw it out and just move on with life. :)|||Have some sympathy. She seems like a sweet girl trying to resolve the unresolved. She was molested as a child for crying out loud. Who wouldn't have problems?





I would be more angry towards my husband if I were you. Sneaking around with a young adult you were trying to be a mentor for. It sounds like one of my cousins' 'forbidden DVDs' as he calls it.





Anyway, I say forgive her and eat some delicious food! From what you've described, this girl seems very sorry and even tried to get you away from the guy who cheated on you, saying you deserve better... but oh well, you're still with him so take that box and have wonderful dinners with him.|||You don't have a pet rabbit do you?


I would put it somewhere safe if so.


This woman sounds as if she has deep psychological issues and


it may actually help her if you report her. If she really is doing this out of a sense of guilt, she may actually determine it is you and your husband who have caused these negative emotions in her life.


A person thinking rationally would understand in a situation like this


that the only way to move on is to apologize and completely sever ties


with the other parties.


Sorry, she sounds to me like someone who will lash out, either at herself. or at you and your husband.





Hope this works out to everyones benefit.





Peace


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